Sunday, July 29, 2012

Sorry I've been MIA

Hello Friends,
I've been MIA for a few reasons.......

First, we've had a crisis with my adopted son, Zachery.  He's been getting into alot of trouble and we've been having a couselor come here 2 to 3 times a week for about 2 hours each time.  That really cuts into the days.  Plus, I was packing for a camping trip for my vacation that was last week. 

We left last Saturday to a local campground and we weren't there 20 minutes when Zachery started in on his defiance.  He's 13 but continually tells us that he wants to be a man, doesn't want rules or consequences, wants to come and go as he pleases and if he doesn't get his way, we'll be sorry.   Camping wasn't a total loss, but we did come home a day early due to the threat of severe thunderstorms.  Tenting and thunderstorms don't mix well.  So, we came home on Monday instead of Tuesday.   Zachery was to be grounded for two weeks due to some hidden illegal items found in his room by my husband.  That afternoon Zachery took off i.e. ran away.   When he was finally found---at a place where he wasn't allowed to be and with people he was forbidden to be with (really bad news kids),  my husband brought him home.  Zachery then threatened that he would kill himself.  My husband then brought him up to the ER where after 4 hours of waiting, a social worker came in to speak with Zachery and my husband.  I wasn't there--I was at home sitting by the phone.  Zachery did not want me there.  Now, you have to understand---we are not super strict parents, but we're not permissive either.  We're just ordinary parents doing our best at our age, raising a difficult 13 year old.  At 1:30 a.m. last Tuesday, Zachery was placed in a Crisis Unit.  As of today, he's still here but might be coming home on Tuesday.  He doesn't want to come back here.  He's stated that quite clearly.  He also wants to visit his father but can't until he reaches the age of 18.  We've been going through so much in the last six months and it has now come to a head and it's quite emotional. 

Anyway, I am so sorry to go on and on about our personal problems, but I just wanted to vent a little.  We're not sure what happens next with Zachery.   So, with doing different things on my vacation and dealing with Zachery's crisis, I really didn't have time, nor the motivation to blog.  

On a happier note, I do have two swaps to share with you which I'll post in a day or two.  I'm off to work in one hour, so it'll have to wait.  If you're looking for the "Where Bloggers Create" blog post, just scroll down to the next post.  Or click here---http://www.scrapmomsmusings.blogspot.com/2012/07/welcome-to-my-happy-place.html#links">

Thanks for reading and I'll be posting soon.  Please do come back.

1 comment:

Unknown said...

As an adoptive mother of 3, I can certainly empathize with your situation. My kids are grown and gone now, but the two oldest have made it abundantly clear they don't want a relationship with us (unless they are desperate and need something). It's heart breaking, but they train us for that in foster/adopt training...that it's very likely when a kid reaches legal age, they'll leave and never look back. Thankfully our youngest is not that way. Keep the faith. All you can do is prayer about it and put him in God's hands.